“Introverts, in contrast, may have strong social skills and enjoy parties and business meetings, but after a while wish they were home in their pajamas. They prefer to devote their social energies to close friends, colleagues, and family. They listen more than they talk, think before they speak, and often feel as if they express themselves better in writing than in conversation. They tend to dislike conflict. Many have a horror of small talk, but enjoy deep discussions.”—
I absolutely agree with EVERYTHING you said, however, I think a lot of this “introversion education” sentiment comes from the fact that extroverts are celebrated and welcomed into society whereas introverts are seen as wrong or damaged somehow. I’m not suggesting that you’re wrong in any way, it’s definitely important to note that extraverts are diverse and not-shrieky, and maybe the tactics being used aren’t the best, but I think the reason introversion gets so much attention on the web is because it isn’t accepted as much in real life!
Eeehhh yeah, I keep seeing this sort of… backlash? against attempts to explain things that aren’t accepted or understood, and even though I totally get what you’re trying to say, it’s still frustrating.
Because I know that all extroverts are not the shrieky, excessive, overbearing model. I really, really do. But the point of this is not “omg extroverts are TERRIBLE and LOUD and only ever like POINTLESS SMALL TALK.” It really isn’t. The thing is really that most people get extroversion — introverts have to learn to navigate a social landscape created by and for extroverts, after all — and most people… don’t get introversion.
If you’re an extrovert, that’s considered normal, while introversion is considered an aberration at best and a disorder at worst. I’ve had so many people think that my introversion means I’m sad or depressed or antisocial. My extended family constantly attempts to guilt-trip me into social situations, because for them, not wanting to spend every waking moment with family means that I don’t love them. And I can count on one hand the people who take seriously my need to spend large amounts of time alone, and half of them still constantly make jokes about it.
Trying to explain that introversion doesn’t mean those things — which is something that happens all too often — is NOT an attack. It’s not automatically discounting extroverts as shallow and shrieky and praising introverts as somehow ~deeper~ and ~more profound~. It’s trying to explain a way of interacting with the world that a lot of extroverts — not all of them! — don’t even have to consider, while introverts have to figure out how to navigate a world that’s constantly screaming at them.
“Nous n’avons plus la révolution comme perspective historique, mais nous avons gardé sa rhétorique et sa posture, qui, au demeurant, font bon ménage avec l’hypercapitalisme de consommation. […Les] actions spectaculaires à effets choc bénéficient d’une large couverture médiatique, elles font la une du jour au même titre que la sortie d’un film, ne modifiant pas d’un iota le fonctionnement profond du capitalisme consumériste. Sous la critique sans concessions, c’est l’ordre du “show” dissident alimentant les pages des médias. […] La contestation radicale du capitalisme de consommation, parfaitement récupérable et récupérée par le marketing à l’affût de créativité permanente, ne fait pas contre-poids à la culture-monde de l’hypercapitalisme, elle l’alimente.”—
La Culture-monde, Gilles Lipovetsky et Jean Serroy, 2008